"I just need to know"

The idea in chapter ten about assurances can play a role in all of our lives. Whether it be in an intimate relationship or in our education. Some people need the non verbal assurance in a relationship to assure themselves that person is there for them in the long haul. The idea of hugging, conversation, smiling, and vocal interest are some cues that people identify as assurance. But the sensitivity of the other person is a huge key. I have had problems where the person I was talking to was a little more sensitive than i thought. We then got into an argument because we both got defensive about our own feelings. So when talking to the person or trying to comfort them, try to recognize what makes them feel better and talk about that.